Can i purify my heart

How can you soften your heart?

When the last ten nights of Ramaḍān reach us, many of us are amazed at the speed with which the month bids us farewell. Our goals have not yet been realized, and our hearts have not yet felt the sweetness of this beloved month. Discouraged - many of us may even be desperate - we feel that our Ramaḍān was not as successful as we wanted and planned. Things get more uncomfortable when we sometimes pray in the mosque and the Imam and those around him start crying; When the crying becomes louder than the verses of the Qurʾān are heard, or the prayer leader makes du‘a during wittr. Everyone else seems to have been touched by this blessed month. Everyone's heart seems to be softened by the sweetness of faith, the tears soaking their cheeks and pleading for mercy, care and forgiveness.

What about me? What about you? How can we also belong to those whose hearts are softened?

Do you’a! I once heard a lecturer who said, “When you are nearing the end of Ramadan and you still feel nothing in your heart, knock on the door of Allaah, Exalted is He! Knock, knock, and Allah will answer you. "

Ask Allaah at all blessed times and do you’a to break the hardness of your heart and gain righteousness and gratitude. Ask Him to soften your heart and fill it with awe of Him so that He will replace your bad deeds with good deeds, and let your heart quake in awe of Him as your actions show love for Him.

Be alone, think about your sins and ask for forgiveness! Take a few minutes every day, sit down and say, “Forgive me, O Allaah”. Every time you ask this from Allaah, remember something that you have done that He displeases. Remember how you yelled at your mother when she tried to help you. Remember when you cheated on your exams.

Sit down and ask Allaah for forgiveness for every single act you have committed, be it large, small, intentional or unintentional. Ask Him to exchange the hardness of your heart for meekness and forgive your sins and replace them with good deeds.

Allaah, exalted is He, tells us in the chapter of al-Furqan: “... except those who repent and believe and do good works; for Allah will change their evil deeds into good; and Allah is forgiving, merciful ”(Qurʾān, 25:70)

In the interpretation of this verse by b. Kaṯīr is quoted from a hadeeth in which Abu Ḏarr, may Allaah be pleased with him, reports that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, says: “I know the last person to be brought out of hell and the last Person entering paradise. A man will be brought and it will be said: “Take away the great sins from him and only ask him about the small ones.” So he is then told: “On such and that days you did this and that and on this and that day have you done this and that. ”And he will say“ yes ”and will not be able to deny any of it. Then he will be told, "For every bad deed you now get a good one." And he will say, "O Lord, I have done (bad, note) things that I do not see here." He (Abu Ḏarr) said then: "And the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, smiled so clearly that one could see his molars." (Hadīth Muslim)

Ibn Kaṯīr further explains: “… by true and sincere repentance itself, the bad deeds that have happened have been turned into good deeds. This happens every time a person regrets what they have done and feels repentance and seeks forgiveness from Allaah, He is exalted. In this way, sin becomes an act of obedience. "

Allaah the Blessed is always ready for us to return to Him, and it is easy for Him to turn our bad deeds into good deeds on our scales! Just how many of us ask Him to soften our hearts, forgive us, and increase our good deeds. Let us sit and do istiġfār, asking for forgiveness from Allaah the Merciful, that He may turn our bad deeds into good ones.

Sit alone, think about your blessings and thank Allaah the Most Merciful for it! How many of us are blessed with parents or others who love us, advise us, and care for us? We have been given innumerable blessings that many have never tasted. How many people are ungrateful and forgetful of what they have been blessed with? Sit down and ponder every grace He has given you: the Qur'an, your eyesight, clean water, literacy ... the gifts are innumerable.

Allah the Exalted tells us in the chapter Ibrāhīm (14:34): “And He granted you of all that you asked for. If you wanted to enumerate the favor of Allah, you would not be able to grasp it. Certainly, man is very often unjust and very often ungrateful ”. Let us be grateful because when we are grateful, Allaah the Most Merciful listens to us. “And when your Lord announced, 'If you are grateful, I will most certainly show you more (favor). However, if you are ungrateful, then my punishment is indeed severe ‘.” 14: 7)

Let us sit and ponder the gifts upon gifts and while our lips are constantly moving, in gratitude to Allah, say: al-ḥamdu li-llāh! Ask Him to let us be among those who are grateful, ask Him to soften our hearts and show us grateful for His gifts!

Think about the Quran! Allaah, exalted is He, asks us the tremendous question: "So do you not want to ponder the Qur'an, or is it that your hearts are closed?" (47:24) How can we belong to those who Whose hearts are not closed? We can make great supplications that Allaah the Most Merciful will open our hearts, and we can ponder the Qur'an. Listen to the Quran with a recitation that penetrates your ears and overwhelms your heart; While listening, go through the translation and try to understand the Qur'an. When you have read the words, sit down and think seriously about the meaning and how it applies to your life. Think about the meaning of the Qur'an and let yourself be captivated by it, head over toe in love with the mighty words of the Creator of the Universe, the One who created you and The One Who revealed these words for you. God has chosen you to be a Muslim: it is He who planned it for you to be among those who should return to Him and read the Quran.

So turn to the Qur'an, be grateful for His grace towards you, and strive to understand His words.

Give alms! The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "The Ṣadaqah extinguishes sins as the water extinguishes the fire" (at-Tirmidhī). The sins we continue to commit rust our hearts. Without a polish, this rust will cover the gorgeous gem underneath. Once this jewel is polished and shines with brilliance inside and out, it becomes for the benefit of the person whose body it houses and at the same time emits light around all people around him, with the permission of Allaah. By giving charity, we can help polish our hearts. Let's give alms!

Ask Allaah the Exalted to soften our hearts, remove the accumulated rust, and purify our hearts and souls as we are brought back to Him, the Almighty and Majestic.

Increase Good Deeds! Allaah the Most Merciful tells us: “And do not wreak havoc on the earth after it has been put in order! And calls upon Him in fear and desire. Indeed, the mercy of Allah is near to those who do good! ”(7:56). He also tells us, “And establish prayer at both ends of the day and at hours of night. The good deeds make the bad deeds perish. This is an admonition to those who remember (Allah). (11: 114)

Allah the Most Merciful has made our religion so varied that even a good deed is a worship service if done sincerely and correctly. Let us always renew our intentions! When we take out the trash, let it be an act of worship to keep our homes clean and to please those who live with us. When we smile at someone in the street, let us do it to spread the joy of the Prophet's character while seeking the mercy of Allah and asking Him to soften our hearts as we do good for His good.

Live in paradise and run away from hell! If you are reading the Qur'an or in prayer and come across words such as "Paradise", picture it. Imagine you are in paradise, standing in front of a river that flows below you, near waterfalls and huge palaces. Imagine you are amazed, have immense joy and are in euphoria, while suddenly there is a knock on yours Noticing shoulders; The moment you turn around, imagine who it could be: your father? Your mother? Your spouse? Your child? Your grandparents? Your best friend? Or is it the Beloved, the Chosen One, the Teacher, our Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him? how would you feel in this moment How would you feel to see the person who meant most to you in life? To see the person who passed away years ago and you always longed for her? And how would you feel if you came to the realization that you are leaving here to be with the people you love, forever.

You will never die again and you will never again have to fear the things that cause you worries and difficulties in this world.

In that moment you will understand what Allaah the Exalted is saying when he describes the believers in Paradise: “And they will say,“ Praise be to Allaah Who has taken away sorrow from us! Our Lord is truly forgiving and always ready to give thanks. (He), Who through His grace has brought us into the abode that will remain forever, in which we experience no hardship and in which we are not afflicted with fatigue ”(34, 35:35).

And when you come across words that describe Hellfire, such as Nār, imagine it! Imagine the fierceness, severity, and strength of Hellfire; Imagine the places where you will be burned until there is no skin, then the skin is restored to you just to continue the agony; You wish to die, but there is no more death and you will never die again; How you long for a cold drink to feel relief, but you are given a potion that will boil your insides and boiling water poured on your head. Is this the ending that you want Is that what you want for those you love? Would you like a dress made of fire (22:19)? Or a robe made of silk (22:23)?

When you go into prostration, ask Allaah the Merciful for what you wish for yourself and those you love. Ask Him from the bottom of your heart and shed your tears just for Him.

Set yourself a goal! In every prayer, whether compulsory or voluntary, set the goal of coming out purer than you were as a newborn. Ask Allaah the Most Merciful for the forgiveness of your sins, so that He wiped them away and it would be as if you had never committed them. Focus like someone who wants to be forgiven. Recite al-Fātiḥa like someone who wants forgiveness and perform prostration like someone who longs in heart and soul to have their sins wiped away and replaced by righteous deeds. Set Paradise as your goal in prayer and concentrate like a Paradise dweller. In prostration, ask Allah to make you belong to the people of Paradise. Intend this in every unit of prayer and request from Allaah to grant you this wish.

There is still time to return to Allaah the Most High and feel the real meaning of this blessed month! Allah the Most Exalted loves it when we return to Him with righteousness and humility and carry our sins with us as a burden to Him, hoping that our sins will be completely forgiven.

Let us return to Him and ask His forgiveness and pleasure, that He may open our hearts and make our limbs obey His commandments!

Ask Him to replace the burden of our shortcomings with the blessings of His mercy. Once we have done this, let's return to Him. Let us feel the light, let us be full of hope and pumped full of energy, let us strive for his pleasure and work passionately for his sake. Be immensely optimistic and he will forgive us, reward us and answer us, God willing. Knock on the door. Allah the Most Exalted and Merciful, The One Who Answers, will undoubtedly answer.

Maryam Amirebrahimi

Translated by Yahya Haddad